Being in a relationship is like riding a tandem bicycle with your spouse.
The tandem bicycle’s handlebar is the vision, principle and belief shared between the couple.
When the couple shares those mutual fundamental life values, they move forward together in unity.
It’s just like when they are going to the same direction with the tandem bicycle.
How could they go together in one tandem bicycle if they have different purposes and motives?
The chances are either they would fall down or they would move out from the bicycle – in other words, it won’t last in the long run.
The speed of the tandem bicycle is like the frequency, intimacy and chemistry between the couple.
When the couple has the same frequency, either both run their life in a rush or in a slow pace, then they could and more likely to live in harmony.
When they fit in to each other with their traits, complement and tolerate each other’s weakness, then they could possibly grow and accomplish their goals together.
Those things are just like when they are pedaling the tandem bicycle with the same speed, no matter they move fast or slowly, they will get to their objectives eventually.
how could they move together in one tandem bicycle if they are pedaling in different pace?
the chances are either one party is dragged along or the pedal of one party is getting heavier, in other words, it won’t work for a long journey.
In conclusion, it takes the same vision, effort as well as understanding in order to get a healthy and a working relationship, just as keeping the tandem bicycle move toward the intended place together.
hope. 